A while ago my husband told me he is not comfortable going to Tampa because his ex lives there. Nothing super bad happened between them she dumped him and he doesn’t want to run into her.
Well, world tour for my favorite artist comes out, tickets sell out like hell. My best, least stressful and cheapest option was Tampa. I bought two tickets and told my husband I bought tickets to see the artist in Tampa.
I am emphasizing this because I want no misinterpretation…
I TOLD MY HUSBAND HE DOES NOT HAVE TO COME IF HE DOESN’T WANT TO BECAUSE I KNOW HE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH TAMPA. I WOULD NOT HOLD IT AGAINST HIM AND I WOULD BE OK BY MYSELF OR WITH MY TAMPA FRIENDS. SOMEONE WILL 100% BUY HIS TICKET IF HE DOES NOT COME. MY HUSBAND VOLUNTARILY CHOSE TO COME DESPITE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE WITH TAMPA.
I asked him if everything was okay and if he was comfortable going to Tampa and he said yes…so I had asked him, well, what changed? He said I don’t know, and he doesn’t know why he said that.
I also asked for reassurance that his ex girlfriend was not going to be an issue, and he blew up at me saying I was accusing him of cheating on me in Tampa. Not once did I mention a specific act or anything I just wanted reassurance that she was not going to be a problem. I’ve had problems with a lot of my partners exes in previous relationships so I wanted this to be avoided. Period. My ex boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend and he knows that, but some thoughtful reassurance is so hard for him?
He even offered to go there a day early to pick me up from the airport with no car or rental. He’s also going to be working the entire week we are there. He’s very persistent about going to Tampa despite telling me he’s uncomfortable with it. He’s very particular about where we’re staying and whether or not it’s a hotel or an Airbnb, and how close it is to the stadium. Like this is my…event. My birthday. Why?
My Husband has a habit of saying one thing and then saying another thing later, often saying what benefits him in the moment (in other words, lying).
It has been 22 hours since my husband has responded to me about anything. He has completely ghosted me ever since we had this conversation.
He also makes it seem like it’s such a struggle to even go with me so I’m very confused as to whether or not he even wants to go. He complains about having to book hotels and airbnbs, plans after the vacation, having to work during vacation (he voluntarily chose these dates for work too, btw), and sacrificing so much to just be there. It makes me feel so insufferable like he is suffering because I wanted reassurance and because I’m going to a concert he chose to come to??
So, I’m selling his ticket. I posted on all my social media that the ticket is being sold. If it’s not sold by mid month it will be posted on the ticket seller site. I told my husband I did not want him to come and I will pay him back for any travel expenses he has already paid. All this trouble over some reassurance is not work it. He complains about missing work events, having to work, just making the entire experience miserable. And the catch is you’re choosing to do it all!! I’m not forcing you to come!!
Less stress for both of us. You can focus on work and I can focus on enjoying my birthday and concert.
I’m still going to have a good time and I’m very excited to see this artist. This is just very pathetic that my husband has gone a whole day without talking to me over a fake scenario that hasn’t and allegedly won’t happen??
Edit: he told me that this is the meanest thing anyone has ever done and I asked him if he’s going to ignore me for another 24 hours and he said yes because that’s what I do to him. I never ignored him that long!!! I’m literally married to a manchild smh