i (F23) met this girl (22) on a dating app, we got along super good the chemistry was great. Our first date went well, but she was already talking about a future with me 2 weeks into talking and i went along with it because i was so into her. By week 3 she was already telling me she loves me which i thought was a little weird and didn’t feel special considering she told me over FaceTime, but i said it back because i didn’t want to make her feel rejected. On week 4 she asked me to be her girlfriend and took me to sleepover at her house and meet her mom. I brought her mom flowers and she really liked me, we all made home made pizzas together which felt so special to me because i have a bad relationship with my family.
This is where things went wrong, that night we had an argument which i could’ve handled better because i didn’t communicate well or tried to understand her perspective and things got really emotional after because she was upset that i didn’t try to understand her. That same night after the argument i wanted to cuddle and be close to her to make up for it, but she didn’t want to so i ended up opening up to her about my bad relationship with my family and why they’re the reason why i want affection when things aren’t okay. I got carried away because i was emotional and ended up opening up about my bad mental health as well because i felt like i could trust her since she claimed to “be in love with me” and maybe it would help her understand me a little more and get to know me more on a deeper level.
The morning after, i told her i felt horrible and that i learned how i can be better for her from the situation. I apologized to her for not understanding her during our argument and she told me “it’s okay we all make mistakes let’s move past it” i was really worried that she’d end things with me, but then she started saying things like “even if i do leave you, you can’t be sad because its only been a month” which made me question her intentions because she was the one that was fast tracking the relationship and said i love you first so quickly, but she reassured me that we will be okay and she’s not leaving. She told me to go back home because she needed space to “talk to her therapist about the situation”
An hour after i went home she texted me “hey i regret to inform you, but this isn’t gonna work out we both need to work on things we can’t do together. The right person is out there for you! please don’t reach out again, take care!” and blocked me everywhere she didn’t even give me a chance to respond. I have been a mess ever since, questioning if everything she told me was even true. I feel so heart broken that i wasn’t even worth a phone call to explain everything, meanwhile she’s doing completely fine without me. I don’t know how someone who claimed to “love me” can do this. 2 days after the break up she was posting selfies on instagram with the caption “feeling flirty” and adding girls that i remember seeing on the dating app we met. I’m a mess still trying to make sense of everything, i thought first arguments were supposed to be where partners learn how to be better for each other but she just left me…
tl;dr: love bombed, then got broken up with after our first argument after 1 month of dating.