My husband is insisting on finishing our un-finished basement single handily because he doesn’t want to pay anyone to do it. I’m currently on maternity leave with our baby. He basically goes to work, comes home to work on the basement, spends maybe half an hour with the baby before I put her to bed and then he eats and catches up on texting/ social media until I go to bed. I’ve complained to him many times and I was so fed up a few weeks ago that he told me Wednesdays will be a day just for us where he won’t even touch the basement.
He kept his promise but on those days, he’s just so exhausted that he ends up napping and we don’t spend any time together. He works 7 days a week at his job because it’s easy money and he doesn’t mind it but there’s literally no days off. All he talks about is that stupid basement and I’m tired of getting absolutely no break or quality time with my husband. We agreed that he can only work on it for 2 hours a day but by the time he gets everything ready, that 2 hours turns into way longer. He’s been at it for weeks now and maybe has like 2% done. He won’t be done for another 2-3 years at this rate and I can’t deal with this for another few years. We were planning to start for a second in a few months but I refuse to be a married single mom. I’m trying to stay supportive but I’ve been feeling so emotionally detached more and more everyday and I’ve told him this and his response is that “he’s working so hard to complete the basement for us” but I feel like it’s costing us our marriage. We barely spend any time together and intimacy has been thrown out the window. He has a good paying job and I go back to work soon but he’s still refusing to hire anyone. Knowing him, he’ll obsess over finishing that basement until it’s 100% done.
TL;DR husband is working on our basement alone and it’s driving us apart due to the lack of quality time and intimacy.