I 25M was in my first relationship last year. It’s been over for 8 months now. I wish someone had told me to delete Snapchat. My therapist said it wasn’t the app that ended the relationship it was that she the person that was insecure. We both used the app, I don’t talk to many people in general but one day I had gotten a request from someone I had met on acquaintance level many months before my relationship. We followed each other on Instagram talked sometimes there and that was it. Fast forward in my relationship 9 months later I get a request from her on snap so I accepted it and we caught up. I never dated this person or had any romantic interest in her or anything I want to make that clear. I had met that person when I was honorably discharged from the navy and was looking to smoke weed
My ex looks over my shoulder and sees a snap notification and asked who it was. I told her honestly it was someone I met at that dispo before our relationship and idk what they wanted and I was curious as so what they wanted. The days following she said she felt uncomfortable with it so I unadded the person immediately, I apologized and said I never had any intentions with this person before we got together and I don’t have any intentions with her now. I’m sorry for making you feel uncomfortable. A few days after she said I broke my word about mowing my mom’s lawn cuz I had sun poisoning as she believed it wasn’t a good enough excuse she accused me of cheating on her. It really messed me up cuz that is something I’d never do.
She broke up with me in the car and while she accused me of cheating on her she said she didn’t want to break up with me and she would’ve married me. We met a week later (I posted recently what I read to her in my notes) cuz she said she was serious ab that marriage comment she made. She said we could get back together and talk slowly but instead of that she ghosted me and drunk called me for two weeks before saying “I wished I was ready but I told you I needed time and space to heal and felt like I didn’t get that”. When I tell u I tried everything to fix this I truly did. I’ve been in therapy ever since.
I just feel like this will live with me for a while. It’s fucked me up. I no longer have a Snapchat account. I get asked by people who are older then me and younger than me if I have one and when I tell them no they just look at me funny. It triggers me talking about that app cuz of what it did. I feel like I lost my person, we clicked on everything morally and value wise, we got along great and I treated her great. This was our first conflict in our 5 months together. My therapist and everyone else (so many people) said I dodged a bullet. I just haven’t been able to fully stop thinking about her. I’ll just blame myself for a long time cuz of this. Everyone I tell this story to says it’s ridiculous that this happened.