To the spouse really that supports and pampers the other. Do you ever wake up feeling defeated and full of dread for all the support you know you will have to provide for your partner while knowing they won’t provide you with what feels even a fraction of the same? If you do how do you cope? How do you continue going on loving the person after you realise that you’re more their parent than their spouse? Am I just being too self-centered and selfish to wish to have a capable partner and not feel like I’m the lone CEO of a company?