me and my boyfriend have tried to have sex multiple times but it never seems to work and it makes me feel awful. the problem we always run into is that we’re in the moment, he tries to insert himself, and then i start panicking for seemingly no reason. its like an instinctual reaction and its difficult to control, even though we’ve been dating for well over a year. i feel very safe with him and hes a great boyfriend too, so it doesnt make much sense. it also just hurts, a lot. i know a big reason for the pain would be me tensing up out of nervousness, but the sex itself just burns. the lube we use has Propylene Glycol & Hydroxypropylcellulose, for reference. we have tried water-based lube too, but it also burned and gave me an infection. we’re 100% okay with other sexual activities, though. we often do oral, pegging, and general stuff like that. its just the actual insertion sex that i have problems with. for now, our main solution is to try to have sex multiple times until it works, but not much progress has been made with that. is there anything that me or my boyfriend can do to help with this issue?