So I (25) met this woman (23) on a dating app, and we’ve been talking for about a week. We clicked fast and realised we’re very similar in our interests, values, mindset, and what we want in a person. We also text in a very similar way – often sending 6 or 7+ messages each when replying. She’s temporarily elsewhere, so that’s the main reason we’ve still been talking this much over text instead of me just setting up a date already.
From my POV, things were going well. I know a lot of people think long messages are bad, but she matched the energy and even encouraged it. When I joked about cutting them down, she lightly said it was fine bc she likes to read, and sometimes even pushed me to explain things more. She also said herself how rare and nice it was that we got along so well. Among other things.
What confused me was that over the last few days her reply time slowed quite a bit.. from multiple per day, to eventually 1, and then 1 for 1 1/2 or 2 days – and the effort dipped a bit too. But each time I thought maybe I fumbled.. she came back still sounding enthusiastic. Sending voice notes, said she doesn’t have time or interest in talking to multiple people, and then finally asked to move off the app bc she doesn’t check it much.. before giving me her number after I asked. That’s why the following is confusing me even more.
I replied about an hour after she gave me her number and tried texting her (but had a couple of issues bc of the different country), before I got it working a few mins later, and sent a quick text. Whilst I also told her on the app I’d wait until morning to send the rest so I wouldn’t wake her – mentioning the initial phone issues too.
She didn’t reply that night, (which I assumed was bc she was asleep by then). But the whole next day went by and she still hasn't even read or replied to the text, or to my quick follow-up text later basically asking if I had the right number – neither on the app. It currently being early morning the next day. Normally I’d just leave it here, but bc of the similarities, I still feel like this could be worth another chance. Idk whether to check in on the app or iMessage, since I’m still not 100% sure I set her number up correctly – neither on how long to wait b4 doing so.
What do you think is going on here? And what do you make of the general overall pattern, considering she's the one who (unprompted) recently asked to move off the app for implied faster replies, literally gave me her number, and then disappeared from the hour after I responded up until now?