I have people in my life that know my buttons very well, they want a reaction. They will say the meanest things out loud. Usually about my family or personal attacks against me. I absolutely always stand my ground if it’s personal attack.
However it does seem to cause unnecessary stress to me in the long run and I just want to learn how to ignore it. I can go from. 1 to 100 when I hear people talk badly about my family. If someone comments on things that don’t matter it’s different.