There's a man in my life who's been pursuing me ever since we met in 2022. Let's name him Y. Our contact is on and off, but lately I've been thinking about him often. We hung out twice in Nov-Dec 2022, one of that ending up with me giving him head, and later on it's all been through text.
In 2023 I was in a relationship with another man whom I considered the love of my life at the time (it was toxic and messed up in many ways lol). Due to that, I turned Y down every time he contacted me. In the meantime, Y moved 200km away. He still texts me from time to time, asking me to come, saying he would pay for the transportation and all that. But it's not about the money for me. My issue is that my parents won't let me just go to another city to see a man. They didn't like that I spent so much time with my ex because it was "so unladylike" and "the man should make an effort to come to you, not the other way around".
Besides they are afraid that I'll just go and get drunk, do drugs, and have sex. Rightfully so. This is probably what I would do if someone offered. This is what I used to do with my ex. Except Y isn't into drinking, and definitely not into drugs. He is interested in the sex though, and he said he will hookup with some other girl if I keep turning him down. That's understandable, this man has been waiting almost 4 years for me, I wouldn't expect him to be celibate all this time.
So I guess the issue here is this: he can't come here because he doesn't have a place here —> parents won't let me go visit him in another city until they have met him and know he isn't like my ex —> he doesn't wanna meet my parents until we're actually in a relationship.