I did everything you said.
I finished my degree.
I picked up a hobby
I got into great shape.
I developed a fashion sense
I created a business that pays over 6 figures
I got my own place
I became a better listener.
I work hard on behaving ethically
All of these things dramatically improved my life and I am super glad I did all of them.
However none of these things improved my dating life like commenters seemed to imply. I feel like I check a lot of boxes for what people say they want, yet people still don’t show much interest.
It makes me wonder if theres a gap between what people say they value and what actually creates attraction.
I’m not saying self improvement is useless, it clearly isn’t, I just struggle to see how that translates to attraction.