As the title says, maintaining relationships with people feels impossible.
(i) I tend to not instinctually message or reach out to people unless there is something I need to discuss (i.e., to talk about scheduling something or asking about something specific), I do not contact people through random memes nor do I call just to chat. I recognize that this is likely a huge reason I do not have many friends, but doing these other maintenance items is both unclear and very effortful (e.g., it requires significant cognitive effort to research things to send to someone and assess what the message is saying and how it would be received). Because of this mental hurdle, I tend to avoid the act entirely.
(ii) I don't naturally seek out socializing. For me socializing feels like eating a salad, I can do it, I know it's good for me, but I just don't really enjoy it. Honestly, work discussions (i.e., talking to my coworkers about projects and other work-related items) I find to actually be nice, but obviously I can't really do that much outside of work. I think the truth is that in casual interactions I don't really know what I should say or discuss, while work conversations are the opposite. I can converse with people just fine, I merely find the casual social chit chat to be very effortful and somewhat stressful.
I do want to connect with others, I do want to build deep relationships, but it's difficult when the act of doing so feels so draining and I don't really feel much pleasure from it afterwards. The argument could be made that I just haven't found the right people, but it's strange (and frankly unlikely) that I'm 24 and still haven't found the right people. Is there a way to fix this issue?