I’m a 35 year old male, currently single. Sometimes I have moments in that I think I would like a partner and to date again etc although sometimes I think I just get confused, and the reason for that is: The older I get the less I see the benefits of a relationship, and I’m just wondering if this is common or perhaps I’m just in a bad place or something.
A couple of times in the past year I have started talking to girls, and within the first few days it already exhausts me….admittedly I’m not great with modern communication, but before even meeting them it seems high maintenance. It’s got to a point where I am just turning away from some really attractive females that 25 year old me would have dreamt of dating, I’m now attracting those females but I just can’t be dealing with it, and I hope I don’t Iive to regret it. But, I despise this modern dating stuff. I’m put off them within the first few days ‘send me a selfie of you at work 😉’ … I say ‘no, I’m not really into that’…because, ya know, I’m 35 year old man, not a teenager taking selfies. And then they get annoyed and immature, kinda pathetic. And then the whole video calling thing, dont get me started on that. And then you could say, okay, so cut straight to meeting in person, which I’ve also done, but the stress soon comes along, which I know is perfectly normal in relationships and part of loving someone, but I just don’t think I can do it anymore
also, the amount of girls that expect some ideal provider type man thats gonna start providing and making her life easier, and she’s got kids, from like day 1. Why am I going to start providing and i barely know you? what have you done to deserve that?
i just want someone to connect with and feel happy with, laugh and of course share details and support eachother, but that just doesn’t come without a lot of extra expectations at my age, and stress that I wonder if it’s worth it
i find the older I get, women are looking more for a stable provider type place that they can just relax within, while I’m kinda yearning for just connecting with someone away from all the stresses of life like finances, bills, homes, cars etc I want a connection with someone to help take me away from those stresses but it seems its actually all about those stresses!
this stuff is exhausting. Add in the baggage most of the people have at this age, divorces, kids, strained relationships with kids fathers, kids fathers that have abandoned the kid etc
man, what are the benefits to my life in entering a modern relationship? It just feels like taking on a whole bunch of stress and somebodys idealistic expectations of what they want you to be and the stress of trying to live up to it just because she’s hot.
Its hard to find pure connection