I recently found out my wife’s friend is cheating on her husband. I know the guy (husband), I wouldn’t say we are friends, but we’ve gotten together for birthday dinners, holiday parties, and things like that.
They were seen getting dinner together (the wife and the man she’s cheating with) by total randomness and she doesn’t know she was seen. My wife actually knows the guy ironically as a regular customer at her restaurant so had him on social media already.
My wife started “investigating” both of them the last few weeks and we’ve found out they are traveling together on a vacation together now.
We don’t have actual proof but my wife said they were posting stories on IG (not together, but at the same location). Unfortunately I didn’t see the stories or did anyone get any screenshots.
My question is how to go about this situation. I feel bad for the husband, I told my wife that if I was in his shoes and I was being cheated on, and someone knew, I’d want to know.
She agreed but said it’s not our business, and wants to stay out of it. Says “he’ll find out regardless sooner or later.”
The friend is in a friend group with my wife. I suggested they confront her about it when she returns from the trip.
My question is how do I go about this? Am I out of place to get involved? If I tell her husband and have no actual proof, could this backfire on me somehow?
Apart of me says stay out of it, the other part says he deserves to know.
edit to add my wife is extremely upset with her friend over finding this out. I genuinely think she isn’t going to defend her, and would be willing to cut the friendship if necessary. Says the friend can be extremely immature and is somewhat of a drama queen.