I’ve always been bad at making friends because of my social anxiety and bad communication skills and after experiencing a one-sided friendship now when I try to make friends I sometimes get a little too much petty and start “counting” things like how many questions I asked versus how many they asked or even sometimes how many words I used compared to them
I can’t seem to stop doing this unless I’m feeling calm. Sometimes when I meet new ppl it feels like I’m the one asking all the questions while the other person is only answering them which makes the convo feel more like an interview rather than an actual convo.
So my question is where should I put the line between keeping score and simply realizing that I might be trying to force a convo/connection with someone who clearly isn’t that interested?