Hello Reddit! Need some advice as I don't know what to do about this.
It seems that my immune system isn't quite as good as my husband's. We have a 1.5 yrs old and we go to playgroups regularly, which unfortunately means we get sick pretty regularly too. When I get sick, my husband only catches it about 50% of the time, however when my husband gets sick I ALWAYS catch it.
This annoys my husband. He's made comments about it before saying "it's just frustrating that you get sick every single time" and states that it's harder for him when I'm sick because our daughter is very attached to me and gets upset when she can't be with me because I'm resting.
Now, here's the thing. He currently works full time, and I'm a full time stay at home mom, and I work part time (I work from home when she's napping, after she goes to bed for the night, and on weekends). When he gets sick, he can call in sick to work for a couple days and spend the entire day resting in bed. When I get sick, I still need to be a full time mom because he's working. I don't get even half a day to rest in bed. Even on weekends, I feel like I need to get as much done as possible before getting to rest in bed for a couple hours, because if I leave him to handle everything he gets annoyed.
I understand that he can't use sick days for when he's sick AND when I'm sick. I don't expect full days to rest, especially during the week. But I would love to not feel guilty for being sick. The fact that he gets annoyed when I get sick after him, and has an attitude about it, frustrates me and feels unfair. I am happy to help him when he's sick and I insist that he rests. When I'm sick, I feel like a burden.
How do we get around this?