Hey guys, I feel like this is going to be such an odd rant but I really could use some reassurance or even some advice.
I'm 25F and am as the title describes, single. My love life isn't a complete wreck, but compared to my friends who have all been in long term relationships it definitely seems like it is in shambles. The friend group I go out with/hang out with the most consists of 3 couples, myself, and one other single person. I love my friends to bits, but sometimes they say really odd things when it comes to my love life. For an example please look at my prior post on this same sub.
I've become increasingly aware of the fact that they flip between having a problem with me being single and having a problem with me even having an interest in someone. Just last night I was with 2 of the couples and we were chatting about what's been going on in our lives, work, graduate programs, new pets, stuff like that. Just for ease we'll call couple 1 Ryan and Sasha, and couple 2 Calvin and Janet. Calvin and I work in adjacent fields so sometimes when we talk about our work we go a little more in depth about complex issues that overlap (we obv still include everyone else but sometimes they end up having their own side conversations).
I was telling Calvin about an issue I had run into where I had asked a bunch of people who had been working for far longer than I had what I should do and eventually one guy was able to help me. THAT'S IT THAT IS THE SUMMARY OF THE ENTIRE ISSUE I WAS TALKING ABOUT. Somehow, this caused Ryan to scoff, roll his eyes, and go "greaaaat here we go, who's this new guy that 'helped' you out" with the full air quotation marks when he said "helped". Me, Calvin, and Janet were all taken aback, I said "well, yeah he helped me out because I asked around for some help, that's really it." Him and Sasha looked at each other and rolled their eyes and Sasha said "oh okay, sure, and you're totally telling us this because you're not interested in him."
The conversation devolved into a bit of an argument from there where I had to explain that I was not interested in the co-worker and even if I was, why would that be an issue if I'm just telling a story about an interaction with them. It was just so frustrating. For me the worst part is Ryan and Sasha are the friends who constantly try to set me up with some of their other friends, give the whole "it'll happen when it happens" speeches, and ask "when are we going to finally go on a double date?!"
There's also no middle ground with them, every time I've even mentioned having a crush they seem to have an issue with it. For the past year I have refused to tell them if I am interested in someone, and don't talk about my love life with them unless they bring it up (where it is somehow still always an issue). Granted, I also haven't really been looking for anything, I've been minding my business, working, exercising, reading new books, trying new restaurants and cafes, just doing a whole bunch of things that I want to do for myself.
I don't know if I'm seeing an issue where there isn't one but I have so many similar stories to this that this post could be 40 page dissertation. If you have any advice, comments, or viewpoints I'm not thinking of please reach out.