I’ve been in many relationships and situationships in my 20+ years of dating, and I’ve been surprised to find myself in a lot of sexless situations. Whether it be that they’re not interested in sex at all or other things are the focus and there’s never PIV or sometimes they don’t seem interested in focusing on me whatsoever.
I have a high drive and I’d be considered conventionally attractive. It kind of confounds me that I’m so often left wanting. Sometimes it’s low drive or anxiety, sometimes it’s selfish lovers, but it happens to me so often.
So I’m curious about how common this really is (I understand it’s a sensitive topic, so I appreciate people sharing!) and I’d also be curious to know how and when people who are kinky/have high drive bring this up in dating to ensure compatibility.