I’m in a serious relationship (like.., he’s met my parents level serious) and my parents know everything about him. The issue is I’m really anxious about what my future might look like with his family….
From what I have seen and heard they treat their daughter like a princess. She married with two kids and lives very close by. But I have this strong feeling that they don’t treat their daughters in-law the same way. I don’t have solid proof, so I could be wrong, but certain things I have noticed make me uneasy.
I talked to my boyfriend about it, and he says his mom and sister are very sweet. I want to believe him,.. but I also feel like sometimes guys don’t really see these dynamics clearly.
For example, he often complains about his bhabhi and once mentioned a big fight he had with her about how she treats his mom. After that his mom and sister apparently said that the bhabhi “tricked” his brother into having kids. which honestly felt like a really uncomfortable and unfair thing to say.
Also, whenever I see videos from his house, his sister is usually just chilling with their mom while the bhabhi seems to be handling most of the household work. Maybe they’ve divided responsibilities, but it still makes me wonder.
I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if my concerns are valid, but I’m genuinely scared. I’m a single child and very pampered at home and while I can adjust,.. this feels overwhelming. It’s also an inter-religious relationship, which adds another layer of stress.
I really love him, and I always imagined having a good relationship with my in-laws, even being close to his sister. But now I just feel anxious and unsure.
Am I overthinking this !! or are these red flags Idk 😵💫
And one more thing, I like mehendi art i sent him a picture of my mehendi, He said it's nice but my sister is on another level, I replied – this is not a competition . He said – No no I'm just saying !! Like why do you have to compare her with me dude !!! he did the same thing when I cooked once or twice – 'my mom does better ' was his words ,You learn how to cook like her – i replied I'm cooking can't be the same your mom and I are different i can't be your mom . Marriage is scary . Correct me if I'm wrong.