I’ve been with my wife almost 20 years. As with many long term relationships, sex slowed down quite a bit. It got to a point where we didn’t have sex for a year. This is for a myriad of reasons.
She is in perimenopause/menopause and started HRT. She has also been getting healthier. With those 2 things, sex has gone through the roof. She is constantly horny. We’ve been going every night. Last night, I woke up to her kissing me and asking if I wanted to have sex. First time ever I couldn’t get it up.
I think I’m just tired. I know how much the lack of intimacy affected us both. Since the sex ramp up, both of our moods have improved dramatically so I don’t want things to trend down again and I certainly want to make her feel fulfilled sexually but I don’t think I can keep up and I’m not sure what to do.