My wife wanted to have sex without a condom for the first time so she could “feel like a woman“. I stupidly agreed to do it after months of arguing about it. We only did it once and of course she got pregnant after that one time.
We have a 5 month old son. We both work so he is at daycare Monday-Friday from 8am-4pm. My wife watches him from 4pm-6pm, then I take him the rest of the night until he is dropped off at 8am the next day. On the weekends, we switch every 3 hours until 6pm and then I take him the rest of the night. Every two weeks she has to do her hair. This takes about 5 hours, then she needs a 3-4 hour break after that which means I end up watching our son for over 24 hours straight every two weeks. For the past two months I’ve taken the overnight shift everyday. I’m the one who has to get him ready every morning and I’m the one who has to give him all of his baths. I’m also doing all of the house cleaning, all of the laundry, and all the grocery shopping. We split the finances 70/30 since I make more.
I am running on fumes. I’ve been trying to get her to help out more but she says she’s already overwhelmed and has a meltdown whenever she has to do any more than she is currently doing.
She said having kids was her dream, that her life would be incomplete without them and that she wanted to have one in 2025. I tried to warn her about how hard kids actually are to raise because I have 3 nephews so I saw how stressed my brother was but it fell on deaf ears.
I am beyond stressed. I already suggested therapy but she thinks it’s a waste of time. I don’t know what to do at this point.
TLDR – Wife isn’t helping enough with the baby because she’s overwhelmed but I’m exhausted.