I’m a 30 year old guy, and this is my exact situation. Let me clear one thing up, I HAVE had a girlfriend before. But that relationship only existed because I worked hard for it to exist. But the basic experience of having people express interest in you (and wanting to get to know you)? That’s totally elusive to me.
I honestly wish I could tell you that I was ugly, had bad social skills, or some other bad flaw. That would actually make my life a lot easier. Trust me when I say that I can only tolerate so many conversations with friends or family who don’t believe them I tell them this. They just think it’s somehow impossible.
I’ve always been a very confident person. Even if I am ugly, it’s never phased me because I feel attractive. I’m 6’6, in good shape, have all my hair, etc. I also think I’m good at making conversation and am a pretty interesting person with hobbies, a good career, and everything else I could ever want. So with that in mind, I really don’t experience a lack of confidence (which can be a fatal flaw). I just can’t relate to the standard young adult experience of meeting someone, having mutual interest shared, and then perusing them. In short, when I meet people they seem completely ambivalent, or that they couldn’t care any less about getting to know me. How do you try to get to know someone romantically if they don’t seem to express the slightest bit of interest in you?
I guess I just want to know what stands in this way between a wishy-washy ambivalence, and actually wanting to give the same energy to me as I give to others. It gets tiring after a while I don’t understand why other people don’t seem to face this challenge as much as I do.
I want to know if I am alone, or if anyone else can relate.