First thing first, I'll give a small description of him and us.
It's almost been a year since we got together, and everything is pretty great so far! He's a gentle, caring and affectionate partner. The thing is, he's very, very logical. Sometimes too much.
The problem is : he has a point of view on gender differences/stereotypes that I do not consider, with woman eyes, true at all.
Earlier this evening, we were talking on the phone about the difficulties adult women encountered when wanting to get diagnosed with ADHD or autism.
Basically, I said that, like most things made and researched in history, the criterias regarding whether or not someone could be diagnosed with autism or ADHD were selected on a MALE population. And that most things in the world were actually thought and designed for MEN.
For those in the back a bit lost, it's assumed that injuries in car accidents involve much more women than men, because the belt was designed for male morphology.
Another thing, as small as it looks like : toothpaste. The pH of women and men's mouth is different. Toothpaste was and is still made to match the pH of men's mouth.
Last but not least, the ceiling handle in public transportation. Yea dude. I'm not 6', I can't reach it.
And it's like this for another whole lot of things. Tools, instruments, dummies used for crash test are made from MEN'S MORPHOLOGY.
So, I was talking about this, not telling any examples, but I could hear in his way of speaking that he didn't agree.
Again, he's a very, very logical guy.
My issue here, is that in that case, he sees the inequalities between men and women, but he doesn't seem to understand the extent of it. And with my eyes, with me living with it EVERYDAY, it bothers me.
I don't blame him, but sometimes… these things feels difficult to talk about, because I know that even tho he won't say I'm wrong, je doesn't think I'm right either. And it's frustrating. It feels a little invalidating.