i'm a 23y/o woman struggling to make friends and my workplace is zero help with this.
i even spent time talking to a therapist about it last year ðŸ˜
i go to social events sometimes, work up the courage to talk to someone, get their instagram, and then it's just silence. i tried reaching out to a couple people i haven't seen in a long time, but it got to the point where i had to stop. my therapist would tell me to message them every single session, and at a certain point it became borderline harassment. i'm very polite and chill in my messages but it was always something like "yeah that sounds great! i'm so busy though haha!" so i just got the hint and left them alone.
i just don't understand, i see them posting hanging out with people all the time. am i approaching this wrong? it seems people my age don't like when someone is persistent, it makes you look desperate. which i AM but i don't want people to know that!!!
i used to have close friends who have unfortunately moved away or moved on so i don't understand how this is hard for me. i'm actually pretty good at socializing, i just can't get them to socialize with me. i saw success when i worked with people because they were basically forced to hang out with me and would notice that i'm pretty cool lol. i just don't have that luxury right now.
i feel so lonely because i literally only talk to my boyfriend. it's been like this for 2 years and i think it's making it harder the longer it goes on :/