I (25F) have been dating my boyfriend (34M) for a few months. Things have moved pretty quickly, but it’s felt natural; we spend a lot of time together (gym, snowboarding, errands, etc.), and early on he asked me to start keeping things at his place so I’d feel comfortable there.
At this point, I’m there most of the time. I work remotely and he works from home a few days a week, so we naturally just started doing daily life together. I wouldn’t say I’ve formally “moved in,” but realistically I’m there a lot, and that was his idea.
He owns his home, and his younger sister (23F) currently lives with him. She’s in nursing school and is planning to move out in July when she gets married. She doesn’t pay rent, but has been living there while finishing school.
When I first met her, she was extremely kind and welcoming. We talked for about 20 minutes, and she showed me her wedding plans. It felt like we got along really well.
But since I’ve been around more often, her behavior has completely changed. Now when she comes home and I’m there, she’ll walk right past me; no eye contact, no “hi,” nothing. This happens almost every time. I’d say she acknowledges me maybe 10% of the time.
It’s noticeable enough that my boyfriend brought it up himself. He told me that if I have an issue with her behavior, he would handle it… but I’m hesitant because I don’t want it to escalate into him kicking her out or damaging their relationship, especially since she’s already moving out in a few months.
For context, I get along really well with his mom and his other sisters, so this seems specific to her.
One other detail… my boyfriend has been very serious about our relationship from the start and has already talked about wanting to marry me, so I wonder if that could be affecting how she sees me being around so much.
I’m trying to understand what might be causing this shift. I don’t think I’ve done anything to upset her, and there hasn’t been any conflict.
Do you think this is:
• her feeling like I’m in her space too much?
• resentment about how often I’m there?
• stress from school/wedding?
• something else?
And what would you do in this situation:
• ignore it since she’s moving out soon
• try to talk to her directly
• let my boyfriend address it
I’d really appreciate any outside perspective.