I 22F and 23M have been entangled in idk what to call it anymore, situationship. A year ago, we initially met on a dating app, he asked me what I was looking for and I said something long term and committed and he said same. Before we met, we had hours long phone calls, lasting 4-6 hours, and our first date was amazing. But he seemed a bit avoidant. I started to get upset at his lack of initiative and after our 2nd date I ended it. This lasted 2 months approx. He drunk calls me 6 weeks later, I drunk call him, we call sober, it lasts 2 hours, send closure messages he breaks it the next day. We meet again that day. He has told me while dating me he realised he wasnt ready for a relationship, he was scared of the emotions, didnt want to disappoint me. 6 months pass, we have 0 contact until I accidentally break it and we call that day and our feelings haven't changed, despite seeing other people. However, we have an argument, then one month of silence and he reaches out to apologise. I suggest meeting casually, he says no, and I accept. The very day we were supposed to meet, he caves and shows up within an hour. We have such a good time. But then 3 weeks later, I try to meet up again, he says no and I leave it. 2 weeks later he casually messages me checking in, I ask to call, he says no but we call for around 2 hours. I wanted us to meet this weekend and so I suggest it, he keeps saying no, and I get upset because he never wants to see me or suggests meeting me. I see him, but its not a date (his words), he is low energy, a little grumpy, but he keeps saying "if i didnt come you would think i hate you". I drop him home and I just feel not great. Everything just feels at his convenience. He messaged me to make sure I got home safe but I havent responded (this is something I never do)
I am studying while he works full time. Most of our "dates" have been meeting at a park or at my apartment, not sit down dinners and I usually pick him up since he doesn't need one and ubers everywhere (he works from home and lives with his parents.)
I used to think he wanted a relationship with me but even a situationship isn't even working because he still never initiates seeing me or anything. Its been a Do I even respond to him? Does he even have feelings for me now? Does he just think i am convenient? Any advice would be appreciated thank you