We’ve been together for 5 years, we plan to go to therapy. I just feel like I’m losing it.
Is this asking too much?
I would like to eat dinner together every night, sitting at the table together. We have an 8 month old baby who sits in her high chair and we can give her food as well. Even if it’s only 15 minutes long, I just want to have a little intentionality in our day and in our family culture.
My husband *says* he is ok with this, sometimes even says it’s the best part of his day, but then in practice he resists in every way possible. I’ll cook something homemade, he’ll order takeout. He’ll say “I’m gonna eat on the couch, I had a hard day…” and I have to ask him to sit at the table like he’s a teenager. I have to ask him to put his phone away. I have to cajole him into talking. I had to ask him to put a shirt on once, had to ask him to take off his noise canceling headphones once. He’ll pretend like the baby is fussy and wants to be walked around, and will do that while I eat alone at the table (spoiler: she wasn’t fussy). It is not fun at all, and I continue to be enraged by his behavior. Not only does he not cook, he’s contributing negatively to the one family culture thing I’m trying to do together.
I truly don’t understand. He says the couch is more comfortable. Can anyone relate to this? I am so sick of this behavior, it pushes me to divorce territory. It feels disrespectful.