I need an outside perspective because this situation has become weirdly entertaining and confusing at the same time.

There’s a guy at my university gym who I’ve been noticing for a while. He’s very much the “boy next door if the boy next door decided to get jacked and hot af” type.

What’s been happening is a long series of eye contact moments. No conversation so far, just this strange silent awareness between us.

Here’s the chronological saga.

  1. First time, he actually initiated eye contact. We held it for about 3 seconds. I was shaken afterwards since I was not used to such intense eye contact.

  2. One time I caught him staring at me while I was walking. The second I turned to look at him, he immediately looked away.

  3. Later that same day, I walked past him. We made about 2 seconds of eye contact, then he looked down at my body, then back at my face and held eye contact until I passed him.

  4. Another day we made about 2 seconds of eye contact in the hallway before he turned toward the weight room.

  5. I once entered the gym and turned around to see him looking at me.

  6. One time I decided to work out near a machine he was using. He started leaving, walked a few steps, then turned around and looked back at me for a couple seconds. I was already looking at him when he did this.

At this point I already had a huge crush on him.

But then I heard his voice while he was talking on the phone and it completely didn’t match what I imagined in my head and I cringed a little (this has actually started growing on me now though lol).

  1. Another day I went into the room where he was lifting. He was talking to another guy who was literally complimenting him. He ended up standing about 12–15 feet behind me while I was sitting on a bench. I could see him in the mirror and then he moved a bit so he was no longer standing behind my bench. We made eye contact for about 2 seconds and I immediately realized I cannot look at this man when he doesn’t have his hoodie on because I got extremely shy. Then he started posing in the mirror and I basically turned into a puddle and only stared at the floor.

  2. Today we were walking past each other and when I tried to look at him I realized he was already looking directly at my face.

  3. Later today we passed each other in a hallway from opposite sides and he was looking at me again.

  4. I walked into the equipment room and we made eye contact and he immediately started looking up at the ceiling.

  5. I was stretching near him while he was talking to his friends. His buddy was hyping him up with something like “you’re 6 ft and jacked, how am I supposed to compete with that.” When I finished and was leaving, I considered saying something to him. We locked eyes for a second and then he literally does a spin.

He looked kind of awkward when he did that and I was just standing there thinking “what just happened.”

At this point I feel like I’m becoming addicted to the eye contact because it’s weirdly exhilarating every time it happens.

I make sure to have a soft smile but his facial expression is always neutral and focused. No smile, no soft expression.

At this point I feel like we’re trapped in some weird silent gym eye contact loop.

Is this:

1) mutual attraction + awkwardness

2) gym coincidence that I’m overanalyzing

3) a guy who notices me but has zero intention of doing anything


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