hi! there’s someone i’ve been seeing for the last 4-5 months, there’s no penis in vagina sex (bcs i, the vagina owner (lol), don’t want to because of bad past experiences) but there is aaaaall the rest, we both cum, pretty intense orgasms for me, and yet we never actually had the conversation of what we really like and don’t like and how to do better and blablabla, feedback basically
i sometimes want to ask/tell during but i get scared of ruining the moment bcs of bad phrasing or whatever, and i sometimes want to ask right after but also get anxious idk
i’m anxious anxious anxious about asking at the right time and i’m not sure whether asking them during some random walk or just any low-pressure low-tension activity is an option lol? or does it have to be a more “intimate” setting?
oh and they also never asked why i don’t want to have actual sex like i just said no like twice (on separate occasions) when they asked and then they never asked again, which is very sweet and respectful of my choices, but i think i’d still like to talk about my problem eventually or at least i wouldn’t mind talking about it, or is it better if i don’t?