when i talk to people who are talkative and outgoing with me first, then i can talk to them normally without any problem. but if people aren’t outgoing to me first i feel like i can’t ever act normal around them or think of anything to say. i want to be able to talk to all kinds of people and not just super extroverted ones who talk to me first. i have an especially hard time trying to talk to my boyfriend’s friends. i f20 am really only friends with girls and gay guys and whenever i have to talk to my boyfriend’s straight friends i feel like i go mute. i can’t think of anything i can say to them and im sure they all think i’m really rude:/
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Even if they aren’t talkative just ask them a bunch of questions and try to include them when you can. Some people may never be particularly conversational just because of who they are but later they will tell you who comfortable and welcome you made them. If you are female talking to straight dudes its a little tough because a lot dudes are horndogs but many are able to read cues and just be freinds. On the flip side though I doubt they think you are rude unless you are making a lot of passive aggressive comments, maybe just quiet which isn’t particularly weird at all around your boyfriend’s straight freinds.