My husband (29M) and I (29F) have been married for a few years and live together. Recently he went through my phone and looked at my Instagram messages. In my DMs he found that on three separate occasions between 2024 and 2026 I had replied to a celebrity’s Instagram stories.
The messages were basically jokes where I said things like “SEND ME MONEY” in all caps and shared pictures of my dog saying my dog is so cute that I deserve money. It wasn’t flirty or romantic, just dumb joking replies to a public figure’s story. The celebrity never responded.
When my husband saw this, he became very upset and said he considers it inappropriate and a form of cheating. I apologized and explained that it was meant as a joke and that I never thought of it as anything serious.
Since then he has barely spoken to me for about a week, even though we live together. I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he’s still very upset. I beleive he may be considering seperation.
I’m trying to understand if I’m missing something here. Was what I did actually inappropriate or crossing a boundary in a marriage? Or is this being blown out of proportion?
I’m genuinely open to hearing different perspectives.