often when i ask other people how to become friends they reply to me by being myself. I feel like that's the most vague answer possible. I don't know that means and I do think my personality is very dry and not compatible. i do want to be calm and less serious with people but how? like how do i just be whoever i want to be without pushing boundaries and fun. i struggle with just being spontaneous pls help i don't want to be so serious ugh