If it is established what the relationship will be at the beginning and I ask for full transparency and the other person agrees…why does it still happen?
It’s bad enough that after swiping and swiping, the people who I match with, that ask me out, and all say they hate drama and don’t like to play games…consistently let me down. It’s so hard to find a person that can have a normal conversation without making it weird.
I’m constantly someone’s stepping stone before they settle down. I don’t sleep with them on the first date. I don’t over/under text. I vibe pretty well with people..or at least that’s what they all tell me. I’m honest about myself, I let them lead the conversation and lead when it’s my turn, I keep communication open. They text me that they had a great time and rush to see me again maybe 2 or 3 more times then nothing. I fear that maybe no matter who I meet I’m destined to be with someone I’d have to settle for. Like maybe I’m the one shooting too high.
I’m not sure what magic spell it’ll take for my dates to take me seriously but it’s really disheartening. The only type I attract in person are people I couldn’t bring home to my family. I’m like repellent to non-crazy people. I can handle rejection but it hurts not to hear anything.
Ghosting in your 20s sucks. But ghosting in your 30s is just embarrassing.