I’m neurotypical, with more introverted/cautious energy that I’ve had to learn to overcome, and he is 4 and got his moms adhd (which we didn’t even know she had until 2 years ago)
I’m learning that adhd can be quite loud (he hates loud spaces like concerts, lawnmower etc) and I can tell sometimes he’s in his own head. My daughter got my mental structure so I have been able to bond well with her very quick.
With him it’s taken longer to develop those bonds, sometimes I just didn’t understand why he was so much different than his sister and why he acts the way he does, until the adhd thing clicked, and honestly kinda confirmed with ancestors dna when we saw his genetic percentage breakdown from my wife and me.
What books, podcast, studies, practices have helped you better understand how your adhd son’s mind works when you can’t relate firsthand. I love my son and I want to be the best dad for him.