Like the most i get is " how are you" or " what are you up too"
If the point of a dating app is to find common interests why do I feel like im interrogating someone and then just answerinf my own question when they just answer?
What am I doing wrong?
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I feel awkward asking too many questions (straight guy here)
I can’t speak for everyone but every time I try I just get single word answers and nothing else, and contrary to how it sounds, single sided conversations are not fun
If I try to ask questions in the app, one or two word responses is all I get. Or I get a reply along the lines of. I would rather get to know each other in person on a date.
It’s like you just can’t win. If you ask questions short replies or want to talk in person. If you don’t ask questions, then they don’t think you’re interested. Hetro single male here
You’re probably not doing anything wrong tbh. A lot of people are just really bad at carrying a conversation, especially folks who are more “internal processors” in general.
I think it’s magnified on dating apps because people don’t want to come across as pushy or weird, or even just overenthusiatic, by asking random questions.
More people need to just get over that self-consciousness imo- for the most part, we all recognize that apps don’t offer a lot in terms a contextual conversation starters. So if you want to get to know somebody, you need to make that happen, on purpose.
Because those men dont want to get to know you, they want to hook up with you
I do this and get ghosted within 3 messages asking very normal questions
I don’t think people are actually very discerning with who they match with, men and women. They like the idea of getting a match or the look of the person, but don’t actually have a burning desire to get to know them.
For a long time I used to ask questions and try to get to know them and I either got one word answers or an answer to the question that didnt allow for any real follow up resulting in me just asking questions and getting answers with no real reciprocation making it feel like I was interviewing them and I just got over it( i damn near refuse to use them anymore), in saying that ive experienced that on actual dates too.
Can’t help I’m afraid, I’m always asking questions of interest. The whole point is to get to know each other, and there’s not a much better way than asking direct questions. I’ll always try and find something of interest to kickstart a conversation and will continue to ask follow up questions. When that dries up I’ll try and pivot to something else. If I get to the point where “how are you” or “what are you up to” are the best I’ve got, that’s a sign that the vibes just aren’t there.
Of course it’s rarely reciprocated, and often just ends up in me being ignored, either immediately or after a few messages, but you can’t say I’m not trying to make an effort.
I ask about common interests listed in their profile. I never get a response, but I ask.
I really don’t know about that but for me, asking about another person’s bio, interest and much more is the first thing we got to know about a person so we can get to know the person we be interested in better. By the way I’m a guy.
Biggest mistake ever, did it for so long. Didn’t realize that when you ask a girl something = ghosted
Why do women rarely answer my questions? As far as I’ve seen mister right doesn’t have to make engaging and deep questions.
And I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong, I’ve given up on dating apps and I think it only works if you’re already successful from before. I think for both sides it’s basically just competition on dating apps, the hotter you are the more matches and better odds you get.
I do it all the time and yall never respond and just ghost us anyways. So many men just stop trying. We put in tons of effort for nothing.