I only have one friend who makes an effort to reach out, and we do it equally. My only issue is we always play games together, and I’m starting to burn out on that because I really don’t enjoy gaming as is, so communication is slowing down.
Everyone else? I have to say something, otherwise I don’t exist. And I hate it. It’s not about putting my pride aside or it being humiliating to try and actively talk to someone you want to be friends with, it’s rather the fact that if I didn’t reach out they would not talk to me at all. It feels as if they don’t care.
As if it’s not bad enough having to be the one who initiates conversation, they not only take hours to reply, but are usually extremely dry when they do.
I try my hardest to be welcoming and engaging, I try to discuss their interest before mine, and I’m always asking if there is anything we can do to spend time. If there’s ever a response, they reply just late enough where I no longer have time to spend with them.
The few times I have addressed this they just say that it’s how they communicate and that they are sorry, but it feels hard to believe that anyone would communicate like this with someone they are interested in talking with.
Are they just uninterested in being friends with me or anything? I go through this too often and it makes me feel like a horrible friend because I’m just not interesting enough for their effort…