Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of an introverted nerd but do people really pack their schedules so much they can’t make time for a date? Is that good for meeting people… but then not being able to date them?
So I’ve been wondering what single people’s here social lives are like. I’m curious what day by day and week by week, especially if you’re on the introverted side. And if it brings you in touch with new prospects.
Up until we broke up it looked about like this (she could meet 3x a week due to custody situation), and it was about as much socializing and scheduled activities vs personal free time I could handle:
- Monday: Work, gym, guitar lesson, other home hobbies
- Tuesday: Work, gym, guitar practice, other home hobbies
- Wednesday: Work, gym, time with girlfriend
- Thursday: Work, gym, 3v3 indoor football
- Friday: Work, gym, time with girlfriend
- Saturday: meeting a friend for events/exhibition etc + lunch and/or seasonal activity (skiing, kayaking, track days), day trips
- Sunday: Fitness class, coffee/brunch, date day with girlfriend
About once a week or so we’d hang out with some friends & colleagues for dinner and I’d try to slot it on not-date days. Overall, I was very happy with this mix of socializing and personal time.
Since we broke up obviously those date days are empty, and my Saturday friend started to feel a bit more distant. This feels rather lonely suddenly, also because we tended to frequently get lunch and coffee with my ex and our friends on workdays, which now isn’t happening, and that felt like somewhat of a community. I try to go to some random meetups instead if nothing else pans out.
If things stay like this, there’s basically zero chance I’d ever meet anyone. Of course I should do “things that are fun” and not just do them to meet women but I don’t have any natural desire to go to bars or clubs or fill my time with even more sports or activities when I'd rather be tinkering at home. But I'm curious to see what everyone's activities are like and how it's "working" for meeting people to hopefully inspire or motivate me.