This is beyond frustrating, but I thought I’d share the story (just in case anyone else can relate).
I met someone I really liked through a sports league that my company sponsors. We got to play games together, and I found out that I really liked her (and got the impression that maybe she liked me too). I’m a 30 year old guy who has never been interesting in using apps to meet people, so I was really excited to hopefully meet someone organically. And (perhaps) foolishly, I thought it was going to work in my favor too.
I messed it all up though. A lot of my friends/co-workers also play, and having them as a distraction really didn’t do me any favors. Not everyone is of the same skill level, and some people just wanted to catch up and talk to me. So it really felt like a lot of my time was monopolized by people who needed help, or who wanted to talk to me about something. For that reason, I couldn’t really spend all of my time focusing on her.
In the end, she just stopped talking to me basically, and from what I can tell on social media, she met another guy. I totally understand (I guess), but I don’t really know what I was supposed to do differently. Not helping other people or ignoring them when they wanted to talk to me wouldn’t have been a nice thing to do. My friends seem to think that’s what I should have done though.
So all in all, I feel like I really messed this up. It was such a rare opportunity to connect with someone, and I think I really blew it.