So my wife and I have been together for over 10 years.
A few weeks ago I had a bit of a glass shattering moment about the way she treats me. And it’s caused me to pull the brake on that behaviour have heavily. This has obviously come as a shock to her.
A few days ago after multiple tense weeks. I said to her that we need to lay out 3 non-negotiable things we need from one another.
I don’t dispute hers.
But she’s disputed and asked for some degree of compromise on mine. Which I believe is unfair.
One of mine was that she needs to be more respectful to me. Specifically, she knows my frustration triggers and during discussions, she actively targets these triggers. She asked for compromise that she will try but she isn’t perfect.
My next point was that she needs to see a counsellor (for herself) but dismissed this saying she isn’t ready for therapy because we are welcoming a child soon and she has a new business. Which I understand but I believe that’s MORE a reason to go.
Anyway I feel unhappy in this marriage and her effectively negating my expressed bottom lines makes me feel like nothing is going to change because she isn’t prepared to.
I want to give it 6 months but I fear I already know where we are heading.
Can I please get the solicited opinions of complete and total strangers? Thankyou