About to marry my lady this year.
Recently, she's been reading books, and has been wanting to try more rough, more bdsm involved sex, and I was happy to tag along.
This V-Day, I specially got a bdsm kit installed in our bedroom, for a surprise, tying her up and hanging horizontally while using her, for my own pleasure, without caring for her. It was the best experience for her, ever.
Now, she can't orgasm from our 'normal' sex, unless it involves some serious dose of spanking (and it can't be light spanks), tying her up, rough breast play (rough enough to leave marks), or some kind of shibari or restraints, or just really really rough sex where I'm holding her down/choking or some kind of twisting her body.
As much as I'd like to indulge her, sometimes I just want to cuddle with her and have slow/romantic loving sex. But also to make sure, she enjoys it too!
What do I do?