I hooked up with a guy last night after a third date. It was good, not exceptional, but pleasant. I feel some connection with this guy and he definitely feels it too, if anything he probably feels more connected to me than I do to him. I don't see a serious relationship here (we have shared interests but are too different deep down; I'm analytical and career-driven, he's not.) I said as much, kindly enough, before we escalated, and he basically said he was down for the ride wherever it went.

Okay, so, the normal thing to do here would be to keep living my life and maybe follow up next weekend, right? But: for whatever reasons, genuine, biological or psychological, I have been hypersexual all day and wanting him to come over. I know he's interested in fucking again, but jumping on it so soon, especially when I'm trying not to lead him on, seems off. The glandular animal part of my brain is being loud as hell right now and not responding to reason so I want to vet with an outside source. I tend to overthink desire if anything and don't want to run blindly at the opposite tendency or come off as over-attached. I’m just really fucking horny.


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  2. He said he was down for the ride wherever, I don’t think you would be leading him on. 

  4. Just preface it with the truth. You want some more d don’t read into it

  6. Don’t waste opportunities, life is too short. There’s no rule book.. well, maybe there is.. but I don’t subscribe. Communicate openly (by this, I mean express your level of interest/what you want) and have fun.

  8. You probably have baby fever.

    Whether or not you want to act on it should definitely depend on whether or not you want to be in a relationship with him. If you continue seeing him without the intention of ever committing, you’ll continue bonding with him and waste more time.

  11. 🚨WARNING🚨
    This sounds like ovulation to me hunny. Use protection! Last time my hormones had me this spun out I ended up pregnant within a month. Lol.

  13. Not insane. Please text or call him immediately. He will be grateful and happy to hear from you!

  14. Just be upfront. Then you aren’t leading him on. He might be up for some funplay.

  18. Another day, another example of people wreaking havoc on their natural pair bonding systems. Why should you pit reason against biology, there is only one will within the human being. What reason and biology are saying is, is get married and have a container to all this, consistent access to someone who your body responds to like this and adapt to each other, build a future together all within the safety net of security via commitment.

  19. Sounds like two consenting adults. You’re concerned with emotional attachment somewhere along the line, but you also say he’s not the right fit. And that you overthink things.

    Why not just let things play out a bit. Turn part of your brain off (don’t be a complete idiot obviously), but live in the moment for a bit.

  20. This occurred with the guy I’m seeing. Kind of had a low libido with my ex-husband, but now, all I think about is sex with my boyfriend.

  24. Mind you you are a grown woman, if you want the d go get the d. Like what are we doing?

  25. If he’s down, he’s down. There is nothing inherently wrong with frequent or continuous sexual contact, as long as you’re safe and consensual. If he said yes, you’re not leading him on, he’s an adult. As long as you’re not misrepresenting yourself or your interest in him, you’re fine.

  30. honestly I can feel you’re gonna regret it if you don’t do anything, also sounds like he’d be glad to spend time with you again 🙂

  31. Why not be open to a relationship with another human being that is not your personality mirror image? From experience it could be a great opportunity for an analytical person to team up with someone that have other qualities – perhaps a more developed emotial radar? Call him!

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