Hi I (M26) am going on my first date this weekend with a girl (F25) I matched with on hinge last week. We chatted for a few days and seemed to hit it off pretty easily. So I suggested we meet up this weekend. She wanted to know what I was thinking we should do so I asked her what her favorite coffee place is in the city and I’ll meet her there.

I’m excited but nervous at the same time. This is my first proper date with someone and my first one through an app. Hoping it goes well. Any tips for me please share thanks!!!


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  1. Well don’t try to kiss her on the first date. Always ask if she wants to hold hands, kiss, be hugged, or any physical contact. Prove that she’s heard, understood, and safe to tell you anything.

  2. Congratulations!

    I’ve dated a lot here are my top tips:

    If you are nervous prepare a couple emergency questions ahead of time. They can be fun and simple like “What’s your favorite kind of candy?” or “What would you do if you won the lottery and didn’t have to work again?”. You don’t have to actually ask them but they’re good to have in your back pocket in case the conversation runs dry. I started doing this after I saw a study that said people who read prepared questions ahead of time rated as having more confidence after a social situation even when they didn’t need to use them. I keep a list and it helps keep me from worrying about not having anything to talk about.

    Listen and engage and find something you find interesting and then ask for advice or for them to explain in detail. Example: I was on a date recently and she mentioned her home was like a jungle. I said I haven’t been able to keep any plants alive and needed advice (which was true). This turned into a very free flowing conversation when she had been a little introverted before that. We even texted about it later.

    Tell a story of something embarrassing that happened to you recently. This is my favorite it really loosens things up.

    Pay for the first date, but allow them to split it if they insist. Don’t make a big deal about it and just say you’re welcome.

    Have fun: fun > cool

  3. 1st date at 26, best advice I can give is set your expectations really low then lower it some more than keep lowering it till it’s at the level where you can walk away without ever seeing or hearing from them again and being perfectly fine with that perhaps even happy that you dodged that bullet. Never enter a date encounter with expectations that you already are in or want to have a relationship with that person.

  5. Congrats! Be yourself and try to have a good time! That should be the number 1 goal

  7. Be silly, have fun, laugh, keep expectations low. Don’t try anything sexual unless you get a complete green light.

  10. Don’t over think it, try to not show over the top excitement, be your best self dress well and be kind but act like you can walk away at any hint of disrespect or disinterest.

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