I (34F) have been dating a guy (35M) I met on Bumble for about 1.5 months. We've been on seven dates. We've had sex and the chemistry is explosive — we can't keep our hands off each other. We get along well, laugh a lot together, and seem to have similar viewpoints on most things.
The problem is I'm extremely anxious almost all the time. We text every day with both of us initiating, but for the last few weeks I feel like there's been a drop in engagement. Then it picked up again. Now I think it's dropping off again. But when I see him in person he's totally normal — attentive, physically affectionate, etc. We share a similar sense of humor and talk about what's going on in our lives. I know some background about him, but it doesn't feel very deep yet. I think that's okay since it's early, but I worry we're not progressing enough.
Basically, after each date I have extreme anxiety that I won't see or hear from him again. A lot of this is probably based on past dating experiences and expecting him to act like other men did. I'm emotionally attached and at various points I've convinced myself he's done with me, unable to eat or sleep, getting upset to the point of tears. He knows none of this. He'd think I'm crazy if he knew. But I think it affects my behavior because when I'm talking to him or seeing him, the anxiety makes me second-guess everything I say or do. It's hard to open up when I feel this crippling fear of rejection.
What do I do to make this better? I tried therapy for a year and a half and didn't feel it helped much. Every time I date someone I like, I feel this way and it's torture to feel so out of control and insecure all the time.