Long story short my wife has been given me a “coupon” that I can decide everything for a day and she says she won’t say no to anything. She is doing this to push her boundaries and to see what I want.
We have sex 4-6 times a week so I am not trying to focus so much on that which is what I am sure she is expecting.
What I want to do is take her shopping try on dress’s, lingerie and doll her up. She never wears makeup and dress’s like Adam Sandler most of the time. She is beautiful, petite 33 year old and I am looking for input and ideas of things to do. Of course sex will be involved but I am trying to do more than just that. I want to surprise her with somethings and make it seem like our day not my day.
When it comes to sexual acts I do want to try some new things but she is pretty reserved sexually so I don’t want to make her too uncomfortable was thinking light bondage and blindfold maybe massage. Any Ideas? I feel like I am missing what women want.
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1- recommending lingerie is a good idea
2- Demand she pamper herself. Does she like pedicures, massages? Desserts at fancy restaurants? Pick something you know she likes. She will find it endearing. Tell her you’re getting her ready for later.
Ask her to cook your favorite meal and shower her with compliments
3- Recommend something new sexually but not super new, she wants to push her boundaries but that can be a recipe for disaster if she feels suddenly pressured to do something way outside her comfort zone. If it involves equipment or rough play you are not familiar with, do your research. Ex: ropes may be a nice start but you need to know safe knots. Don’t recommend anything degrading if she doesn’t already like it.
Pepper in requests she do nice things for herself and tell her you find it sexually gratifying to see her happy and satisfied. Trust me if you want more coupons.
Edit to add:
I like blindfold, she seems to want a surprise so it ties into the theme. Body candles might be fun here too
How do you feel about smeared/ruined makeup? You want to see her all dolled up, do you want to smear her lipstick and mess up her hair at the end of the night? What about clothes made to be ripped off?
She may just want to be ravished without having to actually ask you to do it, women are weird that way.
You could set aside a bit of the day where you say your gonna ask her questions she has to be 100% truthful with. Proceed to ask her about everything sexual and her thoughts and feelings on them. Hide what you like by asking about real weird shit too.
If you do this before the sex and shes actually honest, you should find out what will make her hot.
Id definitely use this to fulfil YOUR biggest kinks though. Shes doing this to find out what YOU like. Dont wreck her openness by not giving her that.
Brazilian wax and wear a butt plug for the day.
This is your chance to make her appreciate you as a man. Make her mow the lawn and fix all the little things around the house all day. Then have garage beers with her as a night cap!
Malheureusement il faut comprendre ta dynamique et ta femme avant tout, souhaite elle être la soumise d’un daddy, d’un maître, quel type de kink à elle ??
Remplissez ensemble une liste de kink car je t’assure que toutes les femmes n’aime pas être traité comme une poupée, ou être attaché, peut être voudrait elle que tu t’attache et que tu lui tendent un martinet ? Peut être est elle une pillow princesse ? Peut etre veut elle du primal ?
Regarde dans les dynamique bdsm tu y trouvera inspiration ainsi que dans les kinks
Si elle souhaite que tu decide de tout pour elle cela ne signifie pas non plus quelle souhaite une dynamique de type bdsm, peut etre veut elle juste un homme qui s’investit et qui lui donne de l’attention, fait toi beau, prépare le petit déj fait un pique nique fait lui un massage emmène là faire quelque chose qu’elle aime genre paysage zoo shopping et complimente là offre lui des fleurs, une nuit dans un hôtel romantique, un spa…
Personally, I’d want to be chained to your radiator all day and used like a pincushion whenever the mood struck you. My point is, only you know your wife and what you think is “pushing her boundaries”.
Re. makeup: you say she never wears it. Asking her to ” get dolled up” is great for a woman that likes to do that. But as a woman who doesn’t wear makeup, that request might make her feel like you don’t find her attractive the way she ordinarily is. I’d be careful with that one. You could ask her in a non-pressure type of way if she’s interested in a makeover. But if she doesn’t wear a makeup now, it’s because she doesn’t like to wear makeup. I think your whole day will backfire if she suddenly feels less desirable to you when she’s just herself without makeup. I know it’s supposed to be your day / fantasies. But I’m sure the last thing you want to do is make her feel insecure.
Maybe get her to take control during some playtime?
Make sure you decide on a safeword together in advance, as with any free use scene.
Don’t know where you live but there are plenty of places online to shop.
Lovers Lane: toys ,games, and
clothing
Fredricks of Hollywood: toys, and clothing
Spencer’s: mild toys, games, and clothing
You could always make up games as well use blindfold…each person gets 1 min to guess 5 items the other partner uses on the blindfolded one. Partner who guess the most correctly wins and can choose to give pleasure or have partner give it to them!!!
You could play lovers abc”s…each person has to kiss, lick, suck, or finger a partner body part for each letter of alphabet. First partner who can’t complete their letter loses, and again, the winner decides to give or have partner give pleasure. Have fun and Good Luck! Bravo to your wife for the coupon, great way to use your imagination!!!
Boudoir photography. The 60 year old her will thank you.
How about a boudoir photo shoot to make her feel beautiful and brave?!
Why doesn’t she get dolled up?
My eyes itch and burn with every eye makeup I’ve tried, and my skin flares up. Mayve ask if she could try on lipsticks? Or sexy accessories?
Take her to Nordstrom’s and have them dress her and she’ll feel better.
Some nice after care post sex would be good. Could give her a nice body massage (get a nice smelling massage oil, my preference is lemongrass but your wife may have another).
Lie her on her back for a nice sensual massage of her labia and clit (be careful not to get massage oil in her vagina though as that could cause irritation/infection, maybe just a nice vagina safe lube around that area)
Could even get her on her front and give her a nice ass massage (one of my favs). Have some baby wipes at hand or a facecloth to clean her ass and rim her. If she’s comfortable you could offer to finger her ass but I know if it was me I’d prefer to have warning so I could douche and prep accordingly.
First, buy her a nice proper pure silicone toy. Second, checkout /r/femaleorgasmdenial . Tease her for hours maybe tie her up first. Tell her she isn’t allowed to climax until you say so. After 30+ mins she’ll be wild with it and begging to be allowed to finish.
A safe way to do the sexy stuff is to ask her to choose from a few options. That way you won’t be pressuring her to say yes to something.
I recommend making a list of limits first and foremost, and discussing your ideas – on both ends – to be sure you’re on the same page and can have fun at will. You say she doesn’t wear make up, make sure that’s not a limit on her part before you ask her to do it.
That out of the way, I’d have her pick out your clothes for the day out, and on her part, something that has easy access; not necessarily for sex, but for teasing and toys. Flowy dress, then lifting it up when you’re alone and giving her pussy a kiss whenever you want? Highly recommended.
Sexy harnesses under said clothing, (rope or leather, both are sexy, and you can have fun with bondage if that’s your thing, just inform yourself on risks and such) and if she likes a little bit of pain, snapping it against her skin.
Having her voice every single lewd thought she has – particularly entertaining if she’s shy with dirty talk – and making sure she enunciates them clearly and without stuttering.
Oh, teasing her until near orgasm, and stopping, and starting all over again. Then giving her your fingers for clean up
Honestly if I had given my partner that coupon…..I’m not gonna finish that lmao. I would want to be ravished. Me personally I don’t get stuff for myself, so a couples massage, a shopping spree for the both of us, a movie with all the stuff like popcorn and snacks, a nice dinner at a place I normally would decline because it’s “too expensive” even though I want to go but I don’t want him to spend too much on me, and then a night of blindfolds and ravishing and different kinds of play with feathers and the like would be up my alley. I would want my partner to take their time with me. To explore my body slowly and intimately. I’m a praise kink girl myself so lots of that, I am also into bdsm so take that how you will. But that’s some of my ideas.
Request 1) every 30 min she must say something nice about your mother
Request 2) she must let you decide how to redecorate the living room
Request 3) 24 hour A-team and Airwolf marathon.
Please don’t “doll her up” if that’s not HER. I might be a little sensitive about this due to my own experiences and I admit that, but tl;dr I decided to try out some lingerie once because I truly wanted to. It’s not something I’d normally do because I’m a total tomboy, so I figured it would be fun for me (both of us) to get out of my comfort zone and try to sort of “be someone else”.
And it was fun. A little uncomfortable, but also fun.
Then he started buying me lingerie and sex turned into theatrics and he didn’t want the authentic me anymore. It actually was the end of the relationship. Instead of just switching it up he wanted someone I’m not.
Now, if SHE wants to and just doesn’t due to time or fatigue or whatever that’s different. But if she’s always “dressed like Adam Sandler”…… that’s who you married. Some of us don’t feel in the right skin in slinky dresses and tons of makeup. Not every woman’s dream is to look like Lady Gaga on stage.
Maybe a fun role play instead? One of the hottest things I’ve done with my partner is go to a bar in different vehicles and pretend we don’t know each other. Watching everyone believe they were seeing 2 strangers hook up was a TRIP.
You know your wife best and what she may be comfortable with. Maybe she would love a day where she’s spoiled and given the princess treatment. But my own experiences aside, the fact that you jump to “I want to make her SEXIER” is a little off putting. If you really want that then ….. you do it too. I’m guessing you don’t come home and put on your dinner jacket either.
Just wanted to say I think it’s really sweet you’re making it a day about both of you… I personally love that response!
Have her valet the car at a store where they send her to the makeup counter. Prepay for a shade of lipstick you like. Have them send her to the lingerie dept prepay for the outfit. Have them send her to shoes pay for the shoes you like. Maybe pick the polish you want and get mani pedi set up too I mean go as far with it as you want.
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Shop online with her. If she’s not used to wearing lingerie, she’s gonna feel weird buying it the first time. My husband and I shop online for all our sexy stuff. It’s fun to do together. He always picks one outfit and I pick one. Shell love it!