For context, my GF and I have been together for more than 9 years but have done very little with our sex lives over the past 8 or so. Our sex mostly consisted of scheduled vanilla sex, with the occasional outlier of her allowing me a very mild fantasy. We weren't able to have serious conversations about sex at all during this time.

Over the past few months, I'm really starting to realize that I want more than this, and have been working on improving our sexual communication. It's been difficult, but after months of working together on this, she's finally warming up a bit about casually having conversations about sex and exploring a bit more.

My GF is very vanilla, and says she has no sexual fantasies herself at all. But I have had the wildest fantasies for the longest time now and I really want to share at least some of them to explore them with her at some point.

I'm wondering, given the context of our relationship, which of my kinks below do you think feel fine to share, if any at all? If this is hard to answer, which kinks would you be fine with hearing from your partner?

A list of kinks I'm interested in exploring, in no particular order (warning, it gets explicit, don't read if you don't want to):

  1. Her being dominant and being rough with me
  2. Using toys on her, mainly vibrators
  3. Watching her masturbate (she tells me she never masturbates at all)
  4. Tying each other up and doing stuff to each other
  5. Watching the sexual media together that she used to enjoy before we got together (pretty much exclusively yaoi and hentai)
  6. Listening to romance audiobooks we already listen to together, but specifically to the sex scenes to get in the mood. (I suspect she already doing this on her own occasionally, but when we listen together she acts like it's very dirty and she's not interested)
  7. Her peeing on me and me drinking it. (we've explored this a bit at the start of our relationship, but she didn't seem too into it so I stopped asking for it. I kinda want to explore this again)
  8. Stuff like her wetting her panties, and losing control of her bladder during sex or fingering (It has happened occasionally during sex already, and I want to relive that again)
  9. Me rimming her, anally fingering her, and anal (I really don't want to do this if it's uncomfortable for her though)
  10. Her anally fingering me and pegging me

And I have more that I'm even ashamed to admit here. Which of my kinks below do you think feel fine to share, if any at all?


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