Hey Reddit .
I could really use some advice or similar experiences.
I’ve been single for about 4 years . My last relationship was a complete disaster and probably the most eye opening experiences for me . We did get back together a few times after the first breakup but the cheating and disloyalty from his side never truly changed .
Anyways between these past 4 years I’ve dated a few men trying to get over my ex . I came across a few good men but I was blinded by the false hopes that me and my ex would somehow get back together . So every guy I dated I self sabotaged and ran away from them .
There is only 1 guy that somehow keeps coming back .
We initially started talking through social media at that time . Then we had began to text / FaceTime . At that time he was in Florida because he had joined the military so meeting in person was not going to happen immediately. We still however kept talking for some time . I ended up ending things with him due to my unhealthy behavior ( still meeting with my ex , not being completely over him etc .)
Some time went on and he reached out to me again . At this point I was finally done with my ex for good .
However I’ve been dealing with depression/ social anxiety and I’ve isolated myself a lot .
We ended up planning a date . I’m in Jersey and he’s in DC now because that’s where he landed a job . The man drove 4 hours to meet me and we had dinner at some restaurant.
I’m not going to lie I didn’t feel physically attracted to him but he was a really kind person and easy going .
After the date I told him that it was nice meeting him but that I feel that since I’m still trying to focus on myself that maybe it’s best if we just remained friends .
He seemed understanding and advised me to maybe seek guidance in God.
We stopped talking for a while and now he reached out to me again .
He said he gave me space after what I told him but that he feels we need a re – do .
I’m so confused as to why this guy is still being so persistent? Is it a red flag ?
What can he possibly see in me that he can’t find in another girl ? I’m really nothing special .
Please advise anyone give me some advice