Venting here.
Prefacing, I live in France.
In short: I (26M) am a virgin and want to be with a woman who is one as well.
Talking about it with others is exhausting as they do not understand it, they just tell me to have a casual fling or worse, use the services of sex workers (yuck, nothing against sex workers, but paying for intimacy disgusts me on a personal level)
It is very difficult to find people who understand me.
No one in person does.
Many can't even process my point of view, as most men I know are deseperate to just have sex and don't understand why I am not like them.
They get mad at me because I'm "squandering my youth", too.
I do not care about any of this.
But it is sad to see my thoughts are so rare in my environment.
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Not sure I really have any advice, but I envy you. As someone that tried to fill the emptiness with casual flings, you are someone to look up to. Don’t let others ruin your moral compass
hats of to you for keeping true to yourself. don’t listen to the people telling you to “waste” the special something to a fling or sex-worker.
I think it’s perfectly reasonable that you want to keep your virginity until you find the right partner. But I’m curious, why are you looking for a partner who hasn’t been in a relationship before and is a virgin as well? Why is that important to you?
you deserve to have someone where you guys can give that gift to each other. Please stay on this course and do not listen to the what others around you say if they are attempting to steer you away.
the best advice I have for you is find a woman that goes to church . even if you don’t believe in God, the women there feel the same about sex as you do.
At your age, it is going to be very hard to find a partner who has never been with anyone.
Additionally I hope you are not coming from a place of purity culture, where you think people are “spoiled” because they have had sex.
I also wonder how you will handle it if you marry someone and you find that you are very sexually incompatible – have a look on the Dead Bedrooms Reddit!
But you do you dude, I think you are missing out massively but also that the person who told you to lose your virginity to a sex worker is an idiot who cannot see any depth in the world around them.