I (25F) keep finding myself in situations where there is a misunderstanding and someone else ends up getting public credit for an idea I had or something I accomplished. It feels immature to point it out or correct it in the moment, and if no one else catches it then I just end up sitting there stewing in it, which doesn’t feel mature either. I feel like I work hard and have creative visions but I can be quiet in group settings which I think is why this situation comes up a lot for me.
An example: in a work meeting today we were discussing an upcoming event we are planning. A coworker brought up an idea that I had mentioned to her in a one-on-one convo the day before (and that I had wanted to discuss with the group today.) I don’t think she intended any ill, she was excited about the idea, but when she brought it up the group got excited too and a couple people both said they really liked “her idea.” At the end of the day I just want the event to be successful. But it admittedly really frustrated me that someone else got public credit for my vision.
Another example was a fundraiser I worked really hard to throw (not for work, just independently) after a tragedy struck our town. I busted my ass and threw it together in less than 24 hours and it ended up being a huge success, in part because a really popular local person asked if he could be involved at the last minute. I of course said yes, knowing he has held similar events in the past and his presence would bring more people in, but after having to listen to people thanking him for “organizing the event” all night, I went home and just cried even though it should’ve been a really proud moment. I’m sure the turnout would not have been the same without him, and I really did appreciate his help and presence, but it hurt coming up with the idea and putting in the heavy lifting and not feeling seen.
I’m trying to find ways to handle these situations better. Is there a way I can be kind and a team player while also claiming my credit where it’s due in a way that doesn’t come off conceited or childish? Or do I need to just learn to let these things go?
TLDR: I often find myself in situations where there is a misunderstanding and someone else gets thanked or credited for my work or ideas. How do I maturely and kindly navigate these situations?