Just for context I’m about to turn 35 next month and my wife and I have our first child on the way.
Over the last year or so I’ve been coming to terms with accepting that a lot of my friends aren’t really good friends. My core friend group has, for the past 15 years, been an overlap of high school friends and college friends since most of my college friends I also went to high school with. I won’t get into specifics but I’ve recently faced head-on a lot of toxic traits some of them had which subconsciously bothered me for years but I guess I just tolerated for a long time. I kind of just had a fed up moment with several of them in which I finally confronted them about these problems which resulted in some distance between me and them afterwards. The friendships didn’t blow up completely but it was sort of a reckoning that I might have to begin putting in an effort to look elsewhere.
It’s also not helping me that I’ve never been able to make “work” friends. Out of college I joined my family’s company which to this day I continue to run with them. Finally, my wife is from out of country and only moved to the U.S. for her masters (about ten years ago) so she’s been here for a while but also doesn’t really have an extensive friend network. She has a couple friends from when when she getting her masters but for the last several years she has worked for herself, remotely from home, so doesn’t have much of a means either to causally meet people.
I guess I’m just seeking out advice or comments from anyone who is or was in a similar situation.
Thanks!