I’ve been sexually active with my boyfriend for a little over a year now yet I am still experiencing some pain post-sex sometimes. He is a girthy guy so I’ve always assumed that it has to do with that paired with us not being able to have sex often. It took a few tries for us to have sex for the first time because it just wouldn’t go in, it felt too big! We live a little bit far away from each other so we’re only able to have sex every other week or so, sometimes more, sometimes less. I figured that because I don’t do it often it may cause my intimate area to go back to its original form and become tight again, but is this normal? If it’s been a few weeks without sex it will burn a lot when I pee after we have sex, and sometimes there is a little bit of blood. Lubrication is not an issue because there is always lots of foreplay and he always makes me orgasm before we have intercourse, needless to say it is very very lubricated before any penetration occurs.
What could be the cause of this? And how could I help it? Would having sex much more often avoid this? One of my worries is that when it comes time to give birth eventually it will hurt more than the normal pain level, which is already incredibly high…