(TLDR: He won’t move in with me because of depression which has made me have to stay at my parents in my mid 20s… and won’t talk about getting married because he’s scared. His depression also has made me feel worn out)
Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now and have only known each other for about 3 years all together. Both of us are one another’s firsts and I believe that he’s the one!
The only issue is that he can never bring himself to say that he wants to marry me outloud. Whenever I’ve brought this up he will make sure to say he sees “the same thing” as me… but never says marriage. Along with this, I’m looking to move in together. But every time he comes up with some sort of excuse as to why not or why he can’t get a full time job to make this happen. (He works part time atm)
So as a result I’ve been having to stay in my parents house. He hasn’t really given me a choice but to do this…
Hes mentioned before that commitment scares him, and he also has been going in and out of a deep depression for the last year or so.. so I don’t know if that really affects it? I don’t experience depression to that level..
I put a lot of time and effort, and, I hate to say it… but a lot of stress into trying to be sure that he’s doing okay. So sometimes at the end of a long work day we meet up and it’s just him complaining about how he’s feeling and me consoling him.
I understand that depression can kick your ass. I know it can make you hate or push away the things or people you love. But I don’t know if this is just who he is and I need to prepare for him never being ready… or if this is just a moment in time that maybe he can come out on top of for the both of us…?